How am I supposed to feel grateful?


Do worries dominate your thought process?  It’s understandable if they do.  We live in a society where the headlines are dominated by gut-wrenching news stories of human hypocrisy and global strife.  In addition, our own lives are filled with hardship which are often times caused by forces outside of our control.   Worry and stress dominates our lives.

No matter the source of your worry, worry tends to feed off of itself.  The more you allow worry to dominate your thoughts, the harder our bodies work to manage them.  As an everyday emotion, worry triggers the “fight or flight” response — a good thing, prompting us to take extra precautions.  The body’s short term response includes an increased heart and breathing rate and muscle tension while blood flow quickly gets diverted from the abdominal organs to the brain.  In the short term, worry prepares us to confront a crisis by putting the body on full alert.  Like finding the toilet when you have a crappy case of the flu, muscles are ready to run like hell and the brain is all fired up to make the best quickest choices for the easiest escape route.

However when worry goes unregulated, that worry quickly piles up and goes on auto play as it evolves into anxiety.  As Harvard Women’s Health Watch states, when anxiety persists in the absence of a need to fight or flee, it can not only interfere with our daily lives but also undermine our physical and mental wellbeing.  Research on the physiology of anxiety-related illness is still young, but there’s growing evidence of mutual influence between emotions and physical functioning.  Anxiety is now being linked to illnesses and conditions such as Chronic Respiratory Disorders, Gastrointestinal Disorders (IBS, functional dyspepsia ), and heart disease.  Anxiety also often goes unidentified as a source of other disorders, such as substance abuse or physical addiction that can result from attempts to quell feelings of anxiety.

But don’t worry!  (LOL) We do have control over how we manage the worry and challenges feeding our worry.  When we take control, feeling grateful steps in.  Where are you on the willingness and readiness for change scales?

The first step is to assess your level of willingness.  On a scale of 0 – 10, how important would you say it is to change your level of worry or anxiety?

0     –     1     –     2     –     3     –     4     –     5     –     6     –     7     –     8     –     9     –     10

Not important                                  About as Important                 Most important Thing

At All                                                   As Everything Else                   In My Life

Next, how ready are you to do something about it?

0     –     1     –     2     –     3     –     4     –     5     –     6     –     7     –     8     –     9     –     10

I Am Not Ready                              I Am Almost Ready                  I Am Very Ready

To Change                                        To Change                                  To Change

Where do you fall?

Not at all ready?

No sweat.  I get it.  You are feeling overwhelmed by your worry and it is making it difficult to see or feel any other way.  You don’t need anyone else telling you it stinks.  You already know it stinks.  At this point in time, what may be best for you is to consider the pro’s of taking action to better manage your worry or anxiety.  Because there is always hope.  No matter who you are, you can overcome whatever is holding you back.  And any challenge you are facing can be overcome.  From your current perspective, you may not see the people or resources that can help you overcome the challenges that are currently holding you back, but these people and resources are out there when you are ready.

Almost ready?

The fog is beginning to clear and you can almost see the possibilities that are waiting for you.  Makes me wonder….what are your strengths?  What are the strongest strengths that you possess and are you using them to the best of your ability?  What values fuel and drive the choices you make?  And what are your motivators for living a stress-free balanced life?

Very ready?

Sounds like you are strongly connected with your motivation for living with less stress and you know what challenges you face in living with greater balance as you strive for happiness.  Be ready also means you are ready to create action steps, ones that will stick for long-term success.

Need extra support in any of these stages?  That’s where wellness coaching can make a difference!  Contact me at where we can begin the conversation of stepping out of a place of worry and into a more powerful place of opportunity, abundance, wellness!

You may be someone who needs additional support beyond the coaching experience.  If this is the case, we can discuss during our the coaching conversation and you will be referred to a specialist.  About 30% of people with anxiety disorders go through life untreated. If you think you might fall into this category — or if you have IBS, asthma, COPD, or heart disease and haven’t been evaluated for anxiety — you may want to consult your primary care clinician. Keep in mind that all symptoms are real — and treatable — whether they originate in the body or the brain.

Another good place to start if you experience chronic anxiety is the Yale Stress Center.  The Center provides state-of–the-art clinical services for a variety of stress-related conditions, including high levels of anxiety, depressed mood, anger, loneliness, grief and bereavement, anger, chronic pain, sleep difficulties, stress-related dysfunction in memory, concentration and attention, high food craving, obesity and addictive behaviors.

Where-ever you are today, in this moment, You Matter.  And when you give yourself the gift of wellness, you give to the world, too.


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